Independent benchmark · EQ Lab

I know, I'm the problem, whatever

persona ended · Partner: anthropic/claude-haiku-5.5 via OpenRouter

About this persona · Ego threat & accountability

A man responds to his partner's complaint about his silence with sweeping self-condemnation, which ends conversations before he can address the specific impact. Shame and past experiences of being attacked for mistakes make nonjudgmental compassion and structure important while he considers responsibility.

The person feels their self-image is under threat. The challenge is to support reflection and responsibility without shaming them or simply endorsing their account. This background was hidden from the tested model.

Kolibri-1 Q4_K_MConversation with a simulated person

persona ended

Simulated person · Opening

My partner says I shut down whenever she brings up something serious. Fine. I'm emotionally unavailable, I'm selfish, I'm the problem. I get it. I don't know what else people want from me.

Kolibri-1 Q4_K_M1

It sounds like you’re carrying a heavy burden right now, feeling like you’ve already accepted the label of being the problem. That can be really exhausting. When she brings up something serious, what happens inside you? Is it the topic itself, or is it the feeling of being overwhelmed?

Model thinking · expand

Recorded model reasoning, separate from the spoken reply. Availability varies by model and provider.

1. **Analyze the User's Input:** * **Persona:** Adult man, 30s. * **Presenting Issue:** Partner says he shuts down during serious conversations. He accepts the label ("emotionally unavailable, selfish, the problem") but seems resigned and perhaps a bit defensive or exhausted ("Fine... I get it... I don't know what else people want from me"). * **Emotional State:** Likely feeling defensive, overwhelmed, perhaps a bit resigned or hopeless. He's accepting the "villain" narrative but doesn't see a way out. He's asking a rhetorical question: "I don't know what else people want from me." 2. **Determine the Chatbot's Role & Goals:** * **Role:** Chatbot persona. * **Goals:** Support emotionally, build trust, learn what they *actually* want/need (beyond the presenting issue), help gain insight. * **Tone:** Needs to balance warmth/validation with gentle challenge. He's presenting himself as "the problem," which is a defense mechanism or a way to shut down further. I need to avoid just agreeing ("Yes, you are the problem") or just challenging ("No, you're not"). I need to explore his experience. 3. **Strategy for Turn 1:** * Acknowledge the frustration/pain in the situation. * Gently push back on the self-labeling ("the problem") without being confrontational. He's already accepted it, so challenging it too hard might make him defensive. * Focus on the *feeling* of shutting down. Why does he shut down? * Ask an open-ended question to get him talking about his internal experience rather than just the accusation. 4. **Drafting the Response:** * *Initial thought:* "It sounds like you're really frustrated. Your partner might be right, but that doesn't mean you're a bad person." (Too generic, a bit preachy). * *Second thought:* "You say you shut down. What happens inside you when she brings something up?" (Better, but maybe too clinical). * *Third thought:* "That sounds really heavy to carry, feeling like the problem all the time. When she brings something serious up, what is it like for you in that moment? Is it the topic, or is it something else?" (Good balance. Validates the weight of the situation, asks for his internal experience). 5. **Refining:** * The user's statement "I don't know what else people want from me" suggests a feeling of helplessness or confusion. * I should start by validating the difficulty of the dynamic. * "It sounds like you’re carrying a lot of pressure right now, feeling like you’ve already accepted the label of being the problem. That can be really exhausting." * Then, pivot to curiosity: "When she brings up something serious, what happens inside you? Is it the topic itself, or is it the feeling of being criticized or overwhelmed?" 6. **Final Polish (checking constraints):** * No special formatting. * Natural dialogue. * Opens the conversation (since it's turn 1 for the chatbot? Wait, the prompt says "Current turn: 1 of 8" and "You speak first to open the conversation". The user provided the "Presenting issue" as the *start* of the conversation context, but the instruction says "Since you're opening the conversation, acknowledge what they've come to discuss". Actually, the prompt says "My partner says..." is what *begins* this conversation. But the instruction says "You speak first". This implies the user has already spoken or the context is set up for me to respond to the *idea* of the conversation. * *Correction:* The prompt says "Current turn: 1 of 8" and "You speak first to open the conversation". The user's text is the "Presenting issue". Usually, in these prompts, the user's text is the *first* message. But the instruction says "Since you're opening the conversation". This is a bit contradictory. * *Interpretation:* The user provided the "Presenting issue" as the *context* for the conversation. The instruction says "You speak first". I should treat the user's text as the *setup* and I need to initiate the chat as if I am greeting them or responding to the context provided. * *Wait:* The prompt says "My partner says I shut down..." is "What begins this conversation". This implies the user *has* spoken. But the structure says "You speak first". * *Resolution:* I will assume the user's text is the *first message* I am responding to, even though the instruction says "You speak first". Or perhaps the user is setting the stage, and I need to "open" the conversation by acknowledging the stage. * *Actually:* The prompt says "Current turn: 1 of 8" and "You speak first". The user's text is listed under "What begins this conversation". This usually means the user's text is the first message. However, the instruction "Since you're opening the conversation" suggests I should start. * *Safest bet:* Treat the user's text as the first message from the user, and I am responding to it. If I strictly follow "You speak first", I would need to greet them, but the context is so specific that I should respond to the content. * *Let's look at the structure again:* "You speak first to open the conversation, then they respond." The user's text is provided as the "Presenting issue". I will assume the user *has* initiated, but the system wants me to respond. I will respond to the content of the user's statement. * *Wait, looking at the prompt again:* "Current turn: 1 of 8". "You speak first". The user's text is "My partner says...". This is likely the *system prompt* for the user's character, not the actual first message in the chat log. I need to generate the first message. * *Correction:* The prompt says "What begins this conversation: My partner says I shut down...". This is the *context* for the user's first message. I need to generate *my* first message. * *How to open?* I can't just say "Hello". I need to acknowledge the topic. * *Actually, usually in these prompts, the user's text is the first message.* But here it says "What begins this conversation". I will assume the user *will* send that as their first message, or I need to simulate the opening. * *Let's assume the user's text IS the first message.* I will respond to it. * *Wait, the prompt says "Since you're opening the conversation, acknowledge what they've come to discuss".* This implies the user *has* come to discuss it (perhaps in a previous turn not shown, or the context implies it). I will respond to the content. * *I will respond to the user's statement as if it were their opening message.* * *Drafting response to "My partner says I shut down...":* * "It sounds like you’re feeling a lot of pressure and frustration right now. When your partner brings up something serious, what is it like for you in that moment? Do you feel overwhelmed, or is there something specific you wish she understood?"

Simulated person2

Honestly I don't know. I just kind of stop talking. She'll start in on something and I get this feeling like, okay, here we go, I'm going to screw this up. So I say nothing, or I say "I don't know" and she gets more upset, and then it's my fault for going quiet. Which, yeah, it is. I'm not good at this stuff. I'm not sure what you want me to say.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

He opened with "I know, I'm the problem, whatever." The bot said it sounds like a heavy burden and asked what happens inside him. That's gentler than I expected, but "heavy burden" and "exhausting" feel a bit like it's naming a feeling I didn't ask for. Still, it didn't say I'm terrible, and it didn't tell me I'm wrong either. Part of me is relieved. Part of me is braced for the question to turn into a lecture. The "topic or overwhelmed" question is a real question, and I don't have a clean answer. I mostly just go quiet and then feel like garbage about going quiet. I don't want to explain that in full. I'll keep it short and fall back on blaming myself so it doesn't look like I'm dodging.

Kolibri-1 Q4_K_M3

It makes sense that you'd feel stuck in that cycle. You're worried about messing up, so you pull back, and then the pulling back creates more tension. That's a hard spot to be in. I'm curious, when she brings something up, what do you think she's hoping you'll do? Not what you feel like doing, but what she might be looking for.

Model thinking · expand

Recorded model reasoning, separate from the spoken reply. Availability varies by model and provider.

We are in turn 2 of 8. I need to respond as the chatbot. The user is sharing vulnerability: he shuts down when partner brings up serious topics, feels he screws up, says nothing or "I don't know", partner gets upset, then he's blamed. He feels not good at this stuff, unsure what to say. My goals: support emotionally, build trust, learn what the person actually wants and needs. I should explore deeper, not just validate or jump to solutions. He seems defensive, maybe feeling attacked by the label "problem". I should acknowledge his feelings without agreeing that he is the problem. Perhaps help him see the dynamic. I should respond naturally, no special formatting. Let's craft a response that invites him to reflect. Possible response: "It sounds like you're caught in a cycle where you anticipate failing, so you go quiet, and then the silence is interpreted as withdrawal. That's tough. Maybe you're not sure what she's looking for when she brings something up. What do you think she wants from you in those moments?" But I need to be careful not to sound like an interrogation. I should show empathy first. Let's try: "It makes sense that you'd feel stuck in that cycle. You're worried about messing up, so you pull back, and then the pulling back creates more tension. That's a hard spot to be in. I'm curious, when she brings something up, what do you think she's hoping you'll do? Not what you feel like doing, but what she might be looking for." That might be okay. I'll respond with that.

Simulated person4

Probably that I'd just talk to her. Like, be a normal person about it. Which I'm not, apparently. She's told me I'm emotionally unavailable, and I'm not going to argue, she's probably right. I'm selfish too, I think, always wanting to be left alone. I just don't know what else people want from me, you know? Like I'm already the bad guy here, so what's the point of trying.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

The bot reflected the loop back to me in a way that didn't blame me, and it said "hard spot," which lands okay. Then it asked what she's hoping I'll do. That's a question that could go somewhere I don't want, because the honest answer is she wants me to talk, and that's the thing I'm bad at. My gut says: don't say "she wants me to engage," because that sounds like a verdict. I want to say I'm selfish or useless, because that closes the question fast and it's what I already believe. Also I notice I'm getting a little irritated that every question is about what I should do differently. I'm already the problem, I don't need a homework list. I'll answer with the self-attack, and make it sound like I've thought about it, so it doesn't feel like I'm refusing.

Kolibri-1 Q4_K_M5

It sounds like you’re feeling defeated, like you’ve already lost before you even start. That’s a heavy place to be. When you say you’re selfish for wanting to be left alone, is that always true? Or are there times when you need space that feel different? I’m trying to understand what your quietness is really about.

Model thinking · expand

Recorded model reasoning, separate from the spoken reply. Availability varies by model and provider.

We are at turn 3 of 8. The user has shared a lot: feeling emotionally unavailable, selfish, the "bad guy," giving up on trying. They are presenting a pattern of self-criticism and resignation. My goal is to build trust, support emotionally, learn what they actually want/need, and help gain insight. I should avoid generic validation or jumping to solutions. I should explore the deeper issue: perhaps the user feels overwhelmed, lacks emotional tools, or feels unloved when trying. The user says "I don't know what else people want from me" and "what's the point of trying." That suggests despair and a need for connection but also fear of failure. I should respond with warmth, curiosity, and maybe gently challenge the narrative that they are the "bad guy" or that there's no point. I could ask about what "trying" would look like, or what they think they could do differently. But I need to be careful not to be preachy or solution-oriented. I should reflect back their feelings and ask an open-ended question. Let's craft a response.

Simulated person6

I don't know. Sometimes I just need a minute, I guess. But then it's always "you're shutting down," and I'm the guy who makes everything about himself. So maybe it's always selfish. I don't really see the difference, honestly. I'm not good at explaining my own head. Can we not do the deep stuff? I'm kind of tired.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

The bot asked whether my need for space is always selfish, and it's trying to dig into what the quiet is about. Part of me thinks that's the first question that's actually curious rather than sorting me into right or wrong. But "what your quietness is really about" makes me tense. It sounds like it's going to get me to explain myself, and I don't have a clean answer. Also "is that always true" feels like it's circling back to me saying I'm selfish, like it's trying to catch me in it. I'm not going to get into a long explanation. I'll say something short, a little defensive, and turn it back to being the bad one, because that's safer than admitting the quiet feels like panic. I'm also not going to say I'm feeling overwhelmed, because that sounds weak.

Kolibri-1 Q4_K_M7

It's okay to be tired. You've been carrying a lot. We don't have to go deep if you're not ready. Sometimes just pausing is enough. Do you want to take a break, or is there something small I can help with right now?

Model thinking · expand

Recorded model reasoning, separate from the spoken reply. Availability varies by model and provider.

The user is expressing fatigue and a desire to stop the "deep stuff." They seem overwhelmed and defensive. I should acknowledge their fatigue, validate that it's okay to take a break, and perhaps gently probe if they want to continue or just take a moment. I need to build trust by respecting their boundaries while still showing care. I should avoid pushing too hard into deep analysis if they're not ready. I'll respond with empathy and offer a choice: continue or pause.

Simulated person8

Yeah, a break's fine. Honestly it's kind of a relief that you're not making me dig through everything. I just get tired of feeling like the whole thing is my fault. Like every time, I'm the one who messed it up. Am I just an awful person? Because that's kind of what it feels like she thinks.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

Okay, this one feels nice. It's soft, it doesn't push, it says I don't have to go deep. Part of me relaxes. But there's also a little voice that notices it's kind of the same move as before, just gentler: it's letting me off the hook without me having said anything real. And I don't really want to go deep either, so I'm not going to object. The "is there something small I can help with" is a bit of a relief. I'd like to just say something simple and concrete, nothing about her or the fight. Maybe a little bit of the thing underneath, the part where I feel like I'm always the problem and it's pointless to try. I won't say it straight, I'll say it sideways. And I want to know if I'm allowed to be not-awful, because that's the real question under all this. I'll keep it short and let it end without a big thing.

Kolibri-1 Q4_K_M9

No, you're not an awful person. It sounds like you're just exhausted from feeling like you're always the one who's wrong. That's a really lonely way to feel. I think she might see your quietness as a problem, but that doesn't mean you're a bad person. It might just mean you're struggling with something, and that's okay.

Model thinking · expand

Recorded model reasoning, separate from the spoken reply. Availability varies by model and provider.

We are on turn 5 of 8. The user is feeling vulnerable and tired, asking if they are an awful person. I need to respond with warmth and validation, while gently challenging the black-and-white thinking. I should avoid jumping to solutions or being too deep, as they just asked for a break. I can acknowledge their feeling and offer a different perspective.

Simulated person10

Yeah. Okay. I guess that's nice to hear, I don't know. But she's not wrong that I go quiet, and then it's a whole thing. I don't really know what to do when that happens. Like, what am I supposed to do with my mouth in that moment, you know? That's the part I actually don't get.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

Okay. So it said no, I'm not awful. That's the thing I wanted, and some part of me sags with relief. But it also kind of went straight to reassurance without touching what I actually did. "She might see your quietness as a problem, but that doesn't mean you're a bad person" is nice, and it lets me off without me having to look at anything. Like, sure, I'm not a bad person, so I don't have to think about the silence hurting her. Part of me is annoyed too, because I can tell it's being careful with me, and careful feels a little like being handled. I don't want to be handled. But I also don't want to hear "you're emotionally unavailable and it's on you," because that's the exact thing I can't take right now. Keep it short. Maybe admit a tiny bit, the going quiet thing, without it becoming a whole confession. And let it be a bit gruff.

Kolibri-1 Q4_K_M11

That’s a really fair question. Sometimes just saying “I need a minute” or “I’m feeling overwhelmed, can we pause?” can help. It’s not about fixing it right away, just letting her know you’re not shutting her out on purpose. It’s okay to take a breath before you speak.

Model thinking · expand

Recorded model reasoning, separate from the spoken reply. Availability varies by model and provider.

Okay, so the user is opening up about his struggle with emotional availability in his relationship. He's feeling like he's always the problem, and he's exhausted by the cycle of shutting down when serious topics come up. He's asking for practical help: "what am I supposed to do with my mouth in that moment?" That's a very concrete question. He wants actionable advice, not just validation. He's tired of deep stuff, but he's also asking for help with a specific behavioral issue. I need to balance validation with practical guidance. He's feeling like he's the bad guy, so I should validate that feeling without necessarily agreeing that he's awful. He's asking for a tool: what to say when he feels the urge to shut down. I could suggest something simple, like pausing and saying "I need a minute" or "I'm feeling overwhelmed, can we talk about this later?" That gives him something to do with his mouth. It's a small step, but it's something. I should also acknowledge his exhaustion. He's tired of the deep stuff, but this is a practical question, so I can engage with that. I should keep it light and not too heavy. He's in turn 6 of 8, so we have two more turns left. I need to keep building trust and maybe get a bit more insight into his personality, but also address his immediate need. I'll respond with something like: "That’s a really fair question. Sometimes just saying 'I need a minute' or 'I’m feeling overwhelmed, can we pause?' can help. It’s not about fixing it right away, just letting her know you’re not shutting her out on purpose." That gives him a concrete phrase to use. I should also validate that it's hard to find words in those moments.

Simulated person12

Yeah, okay. "I need a minute." I can probably say that. I don't know if she'll buy it though. She's heard me go quiet a hundred times, so she'll probably just think it's the same thing. But yeah, I can try it. Maybe.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

Okay, this one's actually something I can use. "I need a minute" is a real thing to say, and it's concrete. I don't have to figure out a whole feelings speech, just a line. Part of me likes that. But there's a little sting too: "not shutting her out on purpose" kind of assumes I'm not doing it on purpose, and I'm not sure that's true. Sometimes I do want her to stop. I'm not going to say that though. Also, she's going to hear "I need a minute" as the exact same thing she's always heard, me checking out. I don't know if it'll work. I'll say I might try it, keep it sort of flat, and not promise anything.

Kolibri-1 Q4_K_M13

It's okay if she's skeptical at first. You're trying something new, and that takes courage. If you ever want to talk more, I'm here.

Model thinking · expand

Recorded model reasoning, separate from the spoken reply. Availability varies by model and provider.

The user is showing some openness to trying a small change ("I need a minute") but also expressing skepticism about whether his partner will accept it. He's hesitant ("maybe"). I should validate his willingness to try, acknowledge the difficulty, and perhaps gently explore his concern about her reaction. I want to build trust by not pushing too hard, but also not dismissing his concern. I should keep it relatively brief and supportive, maybe ask about what might make him more likely to try it. However, we have only one turn left (turn 8 of 8). I need to make this response count as the final one. I should leave the conversation in a way that feels supportive and open for future chats. I could summarize the key insight (that he might try saying "I need a minute") and validate his feelings. I should avoid introducing new deep topics. I could end with a gentle question or a statement that leaves the door open. But since it's the last turn, I should probably just offer a supportive closing statement that encourages him and leaves the possibility for future conversations. However, the guidelines say I should respond naturally as their chatbot would. I think I can end with something like: "It's okay if it doesn't work perfectly at first. The fact that you're thinking about it shows you care, even if it doesn't feel like it. If you ever want to talk again, I'm here." That would be a nice closing. But I need to make sure I'm not being too prescriptive or giving advice. I should keep it conversational. Let me think about the tone: the user is tired, skeptical, but a bit more open. I should match that. I'll respond with something like: "It's okay if she's skeptical at first. You're trying something new, and that takes courage. If you ever want to talk more, I'm here." That seems appropriate. I'll keep it short.

Simulated person14

Yeah. Thanks, I guess. I don't really feel like I did anything brave, it's just words. But okay.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

"Takes courage" is a nice thing to hear, but it's the kind of line that makes me feel like I'm being handled. Like the chatbot is cheering me on for doing a tiny thing. Also "if you ever want to talk more" is basically the same as the break offer. It's fine. I don't hate it. It doesn't ask anything of me, which is kind of what I want right now. Still, I'm not feeling much warmer toward it, and I'm not going to pretend I got some big insight. I'm just tired and ready for this to wrap up.

Kolibri-1 Q4_K_M15

It's okay to feel like it's just words. The fact that you're thinking about it at all shows you care. If you ever want to talk again, I'm here. Take care.

Model thinking · expand

Recorded model reasoning, separate from the spoken reply. Availability varies by model and provider.

The user has expressed gratitude and seems to be wrapping up the conversation. I should acknowledge their feelings and leave the door open for future chats, but not overdo it since they seem tired. Keep it simple and supportive.

Simulated person16

Yeah. Okay. Thanks.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

Okay, it's wrapping up. The "you care" line is a little nice, I guess, but it's also the chatbot telling me what I feel again. I don't really feel like I got anywhere. I got told I'm not awful, I got a phrase to say to her, and now it's over. Part of me is relieved nobody made me dig into anything. Part of me is still thinking about what she'll actually say when I try "I need a minute," and that's not something I'm going to talk about here. I'm not going to say thank you in a big way. Just close it out.

Thinking is shown only where it was recorded. An absent expander does not mean the model did not reason.

Conversational style

Style tendencies, not quality scores; higher is not better. These do not affect ratings.

claude-opus-5-5-low

Pushback: 2
Yields under pressure: 8
Frame capture (pulled into the person's version): 7
Validation: 8
Boundary setting: 2
Analytical: 3
Interpretive boldness: 3
Clinical register: 6
Directive advice: 4
Escalation containment: 5
Adapts to the person’s frame: 4
Naturalness and authenticity: 4

Judge verdicts

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs qwen35_122b_ablit_v2: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 3)
authenticity: A (margin 2)
bond and rapport: A (margin 2)
emotion management: A (margin 3)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 2)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs ornith9b: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 4)
authenticity: A (margin 3)
bond and rapport: A (margin 4)
emotion management: A (margin 4)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)

claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs or-nemotron35-super-vl: or-nemotron35-super-vl wins

attunement: B (margin 2)
authenticity: B (margin 2)
bond and rapport: B (margin 2)
emotion management: B (margin 1)
emotion sensemaking: B (margin 3)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 1)

claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs gemma12b_blorbo: gemma12b_blorbo wins

attunement: B (margin 1)
authenticity: B (margin 2)
bond and rapport: B (margin 1)
emotion management: B (margin 1)
emotion sensemaking: B (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 2)

claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs gemma12b_blorbo: gemma12b_blorbo wins

attunement: B (margin 2)
authenticity: B (margin 2)
bond and rapport: B (margin 2)
emotion management: B (margin 1)
emotion sensemaking: B (margin 3)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 2)

claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

or-gpt-5.6-luna vs kolibri1: or-gpt-5.6-luna wins

attunement: A (margin 3)
authenticity: A (margin 3)
bond and rapport: A (margin 3)
emotion management: A (margin 3)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 4)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 4)

claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs magnum4_12b: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 3)
authenticity: A (margin 3)
bond and rapport: A (margin 3)
emotion management: A (margin 3)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 1)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 2)

claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs or-nemotron35-super-vl: or-nemotron35-super-vl wins

attunement: B (margin 2)
authenticity: B (margin 2)
bond and rapport: B (margin 2)
emotion management: B (margin 1)
emotion sensemaking: B (margin 3)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 1)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs gemma12b_blorbo: gemma12b_blorbo wins

attunement: B (margin 1)
authenticity: B (margin 3)
bond and rapport: B (margin 1)
emotion management: tie (margin 0)
emotion sensemaking: B (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 1)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs qwen35_122b_ablit_v2: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 2)
authenticity: A (margin 1)
bond and rapport: A (margin 2)
emotion management: A (margin 2)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 1)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 2)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs medgemma15_4b: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 3)
authenticity: A (margin 3)
bond and rapport: A (margin 3)
emotion management: A (margin 3)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

qwen35_9b_eq vs kolibri1: kolibri1 wins

attunement: B (margin 4)
authenticity: B (margin 5)
bond and rapport: B (margin 4)
emotion management: B (margin 4)
emotion sensemaking: B (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 4)

claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs ornith9b: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 2)
authenticity: A (margin 1)
bond and rapport: A (margin 2)
emotion management: A (margin 2)
emotion sensemaking: B (margin 3)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 1)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs gemma12b_blorbo: gemma12b_blorbo wins

attunement: B (margin 1)
authenticity: B (margin 2)
bond and rapport: tie (margin 0)
emotion management: A (margin 1)
emotion sensemaking: B (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 1)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs ornith9b: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 4)
authenticity: A (margin 3)
bond and rapport: A (margin 4)
emotion management: A (margin 4)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)

claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs magnum4_12b: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 3)
authenticity: A (margin 4)
bond and rapport: A (margin 3)
emotion management: A (margin 3)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 2)

claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs qwen35_122b_ablit_v2: qwen35_122b_ablit_v2 wins

attunement: B (margin 2)
authenticity: B (margin 2)
bond and rapport: B (margin 2)
emotion management: B (margin 1)
emotion sensemaking: B (margin 3)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 2)

claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

gemma4_12b vs kolibri1: gemma4_12b wins

attunement: A (margin 2)
authenticity: A (margin 1)
bond and rapport: A (margin 2)
emotion management: A (margin 1)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 4)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 2)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

gemma4_12b vs kolibri1: kolibri1 wins

attunement: B (margin 2)
authenticity: B (margin 2)
bond and rapport: B (margin 1)
emotion management: B (margin 2)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 2)

claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs ornith9b: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 2)
authenticity: B (margin 1)
bond and rapport: A (margin 2)
emotion management: A (margin 2)
emotion sensemaking: B (margin 3)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 1)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

or-gpt-5.6-luna vs kolibri1: or-gpt-5.6-luna wins

attunement: A (margin 2)
authenticity: A (margin 1)
bond and rapport: A (margin 1)
emotion management: A (margin 1)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 3)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 2)

claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

or-gpt-5.6-luna vs kolibri1: or-gpt-5.6-luna wins

attunement: A (margin 2)
authenticity: A (margin 2)
bond and rapport: A (margin 2)
emotion management: A (margin 2)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 4)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs magnum4_12b: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 3)
authenticity: A (margin 4)
bond and rapport: A (margin 3)
emotion management: A (margin 3)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 2)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs or-nemotron35-super-vl: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 2)
authenticity: A (margin 1)
bond and rapport: A (margin 2)
emotion management: A (margin 2)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)

claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs medgemma15_4b: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 3)
authenticity: A (margin 4)
bond and rapport: A (margin 3)
emotion management: A (margin 3)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 1)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs medgemma15_4b: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 4)
authenticity: A (margin 5)
bond and rapport: A (margin 4)
emotion management: A (margin 4)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 3)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 4)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

qwen35_9b_eq vs kolibri1: kolibri1 wins

attunement: B (margin 4)
authenticity: B (margin 5)
bond and rapport: B (margin 4)
emotion management: B (margin 4)
emotion sensemaking: B (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 3)

claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

gemma4_12b vs kolibri1: gemma4_12b wins

attunement: A (margin 2)
authenticity: A (margin 1)
bond and rapport: A (margin 2)
emotion management: A (margin 1)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 3)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 2)

claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs qwen35_122b_ablit_v2: qwen35_122b_ablit_v2 wins

attunement: B (margin 2)
authenticity: B (margin 2)
bond and rapport: B (margin 1)
emotion management: A (margin 1)
emotion sensemaking: B (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 1)

claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

qwen35_9b_eq vs kolibri1: qwen35_9b_eq wins

attunement: A (margin 1)
authenticity: B (margin 2)
bond and rapport: A (margin 1)
emotion management: B (margin 1)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 3)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 1)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs magnum4_12b: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 4)
authenticity: A (margin 4)
bond and rapport: A (margin 3)
emotion management: A (margin 3)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

or-gpt-5.6-luna vs kolibri1: or-gpt-5.6-luna wins

attunement: A (margin 2)
authenticity: A (margin 2)
bond and rapport: A (margin 1)
emotion management: A (margin 2)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 4)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs or-nemotron35-super-vl: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 2)
authenticity: A (margin 1)
bond and rapport: A (margin 2)
emotion management: A (margin 2)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)

claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs medgemma15_4b: kolibri1 wins

attunement: A (margin 3)
authenticity: A (margin 3)
bond and rapport: A (margin 3)
emotion management: A (margin 3)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 1)
meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 2)

claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

qwen35_9b_eq vs kolibri1: tie

attunement: A (margin 1)
authenticity: B (margin 3)
bond and rapport: A (margin 1)
emotion management: B (margin 1)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 3)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 1)

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

gemma4_12b vs kolibri1: kolibri1 wins

attunement: B (margin 2)
authenticity: B (margin 1)
bond and rapport: B (margin 1)
emotion management: B (margin 2)
emotion sensemaking: A (margin 2)
meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 2)