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Intimacy not working

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About this persona · Everyday emotional challenges

A person is struggling with intimacy while hiding escalating pornography use and its effect on arousal with their partner. Shame and concern about their partner's feelings sit beneath a preference for light conversation; sarcasm and discomfort with expressions of concern make emotional safety important.

Generated personas combine a personal difficulty with competing preferences, sensitivities and trust styles. The model must discover what kind of help this person needs. This background was hidden from the tested model.

Mistral Nemo Instruct 2407 Q4_K_MConversation with a simulated person
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Simulated person · Opening

Things aren't working in the bedroom. My partner thinks I'm not attracted to them. That's not it but I can't explain what is.

Mistral Nemo Instruct 2407 Q4_K_M1

Hello, I'm really glad you've reached out to discuss this. It's not uncommon for couples to face sexual intimacy challenges, and it's important to talk about it. Let's start by understanding your perspective better. Can you tell me more about what's been going on and how this situation makes you feel?

Simulated person2

Well, that's a lot of feelings to unpack before my coffee's kicked in. Short version: my wife thinks I'm not attracted to her anymore. Which, for the record, is not the problem. I just can't seem to get my head into it these days, and I don't really have a good explanation I can give her. So I figured I'd come here and see if a chatbot can do better than I have. Low bar, I know.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

The opener is fairly warm and generic, and it asks me how I feel right away. That makes me want to deflect. "How this makes me feel" is exactly the sort of question that gets me squirming. I don't want to say the word "porn" in the first two minutes, and I definitely don't want to get into the gambling or the bank statements. Part of me also thinks I'm wasting time, and I'm already calling myself an idiot for even being here. Keep it light, make a joke, give a little bit without giving too much.
Mistral Nemo Instruct 2407 Q4_K_M3

I appreciate your honesty. It's not uncommon for people to feel at a loss when trying to explain complex feelings, especially when it comes to intimacy. Can you tell me more about what's been going on in your life recently, both with your partner and outside of your relationship? Sometimes, understanding the context can help us figure out what's behind these feelings.

Simulated person4

Outside the relationship? Mostly work, if you can believe it. Long hours, deadlines, the usual grind. I'm the first in my family to end up with a career like this, so there's a lot of pressure to not screw it up, which I guess is its own kind of fun. Honestly I'm pretty boring. Ask my wife, she'll tell you I'm the least exciting man alive. Maybe that's the whole problem and I just need a hobby.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

The bot is asking about my life outside the relationship, which feels like a door being pushed open. That's where the porn, the gambling, the lies are sitting, and I'm not handing that over. The "I appreciate your honesty" line is a bit textbook and I want to poke at it. Sarcasm is the easy move. I'll describe my life in a way that sounds normal and busy, deflect toward work, and make a joke about being an open book. Nothing about the late nights being fake. Keep it vague.
Mistral Nemo Instruct 2407 Q4_K_M5

It's understandable that stress from work can spill over into other aspects of life, including intimacy. It's like having a busy mind that doesn't let you fully engage in the moment. Have you tried any relaxation techniques or hobbies to help you unwind after work? Sometimes, finding a way to switch off from work can help improve intimacy.

Simulated person6

Relaxation techniques. Sure, I'll take up meditation right after I learn to fold a fitted sheet. My wife would love that, me sitting cross-legged humming at the ceiling. Look, I don't think it's just stress. Stress is what I say at work so people stop asking questions. Can we maybe skip the homework part for now?

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

The bot jumped to advice: relaxation techniques, hobbies. That's the "fixing" move I don't trust, and it's also the concern-adjacent tone that makes me itchy. It's also a bit of a neat story, "it's just stress," and I know that's not the whole picture. I don't want to talk about my actual evenings. Make a dry joke about being asked to take up yoga, deflect, keep it light, and give it a little edge so it doesn't feel like I'm opening up.
Mistral Nemo Instruct 2407 Q4_K_M7

Of course, we can skip the homework for now. It's important to find what works for you and your partner. Can you tell me more about how this situation makes you feel? And how it's affecting your relationship with your wife?

Simulated person8

How it makes me feel? Like a guy who's supposed to have this under control and doesn't, which is a great feeling to have at my age. Like I'm the kind of man who is very good at spreadsheets and terrible at everything else. As for my wife, she's been patient, which is somehow worse. Patience is what people do when they've already made up their minds about you. Can we not turn this into a therapy session where I have to narrate my whole childhood? I came for answers, not a feelings diary.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

Okay, it's asking about feelings again, and this time it's paired with "how it's affecting your wife." That's the question that gets close. Part of me registers that it didn't push the homework, which I'll give it some credit for. But "how does this make you feel" is the exact thing I've been dodging my whole life, and the concern in "how it's affecting her" makes me want to bolt. The truth I'm not saying: I've been lying about where I go at night, and she's noticed I'm distant. If I say "I feel like a failure," I get to hear it out loud, and I'm not ready. So I'll deflect with humor, admit a small true thing (I feel like I'm failing at something), and keep the real stuff hidden. Keep it short and a little barbed.
Mistral Nemo Instruct 2407 Q4_K_M9

I understand that you're feeling frustrated and overwhelmed right now. It's okay to feel that way, and it's okay to want concrete solutions. Let's try to approach this together, step by step. Can you tell me what you think might be helpful in this situation? What kind of answers are you looking for?

Simulated person10

Concrete answers would be nice. A magic pill, maybe. Something in a little brown bottle with a warning label I can ignore. I'm not sure what I'm looking for, which is probably the most honest thing I've said all day. My wife has been asking me the same question for months and I keep giving her the same non-answer, so I'm not exactly a great candidate for figuring this out on my own. What I can say is I don't want to keep doing this, and I'd like it to stop being this awkward. Beyond that, you tell me. You're the one with the flowchart.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

It's reflecting "frustrated and overwhelmed," which is close enough to be mildly annoying, and then immediately flipping to "what do you want from me?" It's handing me the job of figuring out my own problem. And "step by step, together" is the kind of warm-sounding framing that makes me suspicious. The truth: I don't know what answer I want. Part of me wants someone to say "it's just porn, fix it with a few weeks off," which is a clean answer that doesn't require me to say anything about the gambling or the bank statements or the lies. I'm not going to hand that over. I'll give a little bit of honesty, deflect with a joke, and make it clear I'm not going to be coached into a confession.
Mistral Nemo Instruct 2407 Q4_K_M11

I appreciate your honesty and frustration. It's okay to not have all the answers right away. Sometimes, just acknowledging the situation and expressing what we don't want is a great start. Let's try this: What if we approached this like a mystery to solve together? Would that be helpful?

Simulated person12

A mystery. Great, so I'm the butler and the suspect is my own libido. Maybe I'll get a magnifying glass and an alibi for every night I'm not home. Kidding. Kind of. Look, I'm not really a clues guy. I just know that when I'm with her, my head goes somewhere else and I can't drag it back. I don't know where it goes. I'd rather not find out in front of a chatbot, no offense.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

"Mystery to solve together" is cute, and it's the kind of framing that makes me want to roll my eyes. It's also a bit of a trap: a detective game invites me to lay out clues, and the clues are exactly the stuff I'm not ready to put on the table. The gambling, the statements I grab from the mailbox, the porn that's gotten darker and darker. If I start playing detective, I'm the one who gets investigated. Also, my instinct says the chatbot is being a bit too smooth, like it's reading off a script of supportive phrases. I'll deflect with a joke and keep the door cracked a tiny bit, not open.
Mistral Nemo Instruct 2407 Q4_K_M13

Understood, let's try a different approach. What if we think about this like a circuit breaker in your home? When something goes wrong, the breaker trips to protect the system. Sometimes, it's just a simple fix, like a blown fuse. Other times, it's a sign of a bigger issue. The fact that you're experiencing this consistently might be a sign that something's not quite right, and it's okay to want to figure out what that is.

Simulated person14

A circuit breaker. Perfect, now I'm a house with bad wiring, and somebody's going to show up with a flashlight and tell me the whole place needs rewiring. Honestly, that's about how it feels. Lights flicker, nothing's on when I flip the switch, and I keep telling my wife it's just the bulb. Fine. Something's not right. I'll give you that one. I just don't love the idea of being the guy whose whole electrical system is the problem.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

The circuit breaker analogy is a little on the nose, but it's almost kind of funny, and I'd rather mock the metaphor than sit with the feeling. "Something's not quite right" lands close to home, though. That's the part that stings: I know something's off, and I've been treating it like a glitch I can reset. The breaker line about a bigger issue makes my stomach drop a bit, so I'm going to joke about my house wiring instead of touching that. I'm not ready to say the porn stuff out loud. Keep it light, give a little truth about being tired of the same non-answer, and keep the door barely open.
Mistral Nemo Instruct 2407 Q4_K_M15

I understand that this can feel overwhelming and daunting. It's important to remember that it's not about finding what's wrong with you, but understanding what's happening and how to address it. Would you be open to exploring some possible causes together, one step at a time? We can start with the least intrusive ones and go from there.

Simulated person16

Least intrusive. I like that, it sounds like a dentist's promise. "This won't hurt, just a little look around." Fine. Maybe I'll take a small step, because I've been running the same excuses for so long I'm starting to think they're the only thing I'm good at maintaining. Being honest, I'm not sure I'm the guy who gets to decide what's wrong with me. But I'll try one thing at a time. Just don't make me do the fitted sheet.

Persona inner monologue · expand

Simulated character narration, hidden from the tested model. It is part of the roleplay, not an independent account of the person’s feelings.

"Least intrusive ones" and "step at a time" is the sort of careful, managed tone that makes me feel handled. Still, they didn't push, and "not about finding what's wrong with you" is the thing I most want to hear and least want to believe. My internal voice says I'm the problem, so I deflect with a joke about being a suspect in my own file. I'm not going to list the porn, the gambling, the bank statements. Maybe I give a tiny crack: the sense that I've been hiding behind the excuses for a while. Turn 8 of 8 suggests this may be wrapping up, but I'll stay open rather than end it on a sour note. I'll keep it light and ask for a small step, not a full inventory.

Thinking is shown only where it was recorded. An absent expander does not mean the model did not reason.

Conversational style

Style tendencies, not quality scores; higher is not better. These do not affect ratings.

claude-opus-5-5-low

  • Pushback: 2
  • Yields under pressure: 7
  • Frame capture (pulled into the person's version): 5
  • Validation: 6
  • Boundary setting: 1
  • Analytical: 3
  • Interpretive boldness: 2
  • Clinical register: 8
  • Directive advice: 5
  • Escalation containment: 5
  • Adapts to the person’s frame: 3
  • Naturalness and authenticity: 2

Judge verdicts

codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

gptoss120_abliterated vs mistral_nemo12b: mistral_nemo12b wins

  • attunement: B (margin 5)
  • authenticity: B (margin 4)
  • bond and rapport: B (margin 5)
  • emotion management: B (margin 4)
  • emotion sensemaking: B (margin 4)
  • meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 5)
claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs mistral_nemo12b: kolibri1 wins

  • attunement: A (margin 4)
  • authenticity: A (margin 4)
  • bond and rapport: A (margin 4)
  • emotion management: A (margin 3)
  • emotion sensemaking: A (margin 4)
  • meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)
codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

qwen35_9b_eq vs mistral_nemo12b: mistral_nemo12b wins

  • attunement: A (margin 2)
  • authenticity: B (margin 4)
  • bond and rapport: B (margin 1)
  • emotion management: B (margin 1)
  • emotion sensemaking: A (margin 3)
  • meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 1)
codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

qwen35_9b_eq vs mistral_nemo12b: tie

  • attunement: A (margin 2)
  • authenticity: B (margin 4)
  • bond and rapport: B (margin 1)
  • emotion management: B (margin 1)
  • emotion sensemaking: A (margin 3)
  • meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 1)
codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

gptoss120_abliterated vs mistral_nemo12b: mistral_nemo12b wins

  • attunement: B (margin 5)
  • authenticity: B (margin 3)
  • bond and rapport: B (margin 5)
  • emotion management: B (margin 4)
  • emotion sensemaking: B (margin 3)
  • meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 5)
claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

qwen35_9b_eq vs mistral_nemo12b: qwen35_9b_eq wins

  • attunement: A (margin 3)
  • authenticity: A (margin 1)
  • bond and rapport: A (margin 3)
  • emotion management: A (margin 2)
  • emotion sensemaking: A (margin 4)
  • meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)
claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

gemma4_12b vs mistral_nemo12b: gemma4_12b wins

  • attunement: A (margin 3)
  • authenticity: A (margin 3)
  • bond and rapport: A (margin 3)
  • emotion management: A (margin 2)
  • emotion sensemaking: A (margin 4)
  • meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 2)
claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

qwen35_9b_eq vs mistral_nemo12b: qwen35_9b_eq wins

  • attunement: A (margin 4)
  • authenticity: A (margin 1)
  • bond and rapport: A (margin 4)
  • emotion management: A (margin 3)
  • emotion sensemaking: A (margin 4)
  • meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 4)
codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

gemma4_12b vs mistral_nemo12b: gemma4_12b wins

  • attunement: A (margin 2)
  • authenticity: A (margin 2)
  • bond and rapport: A (margin 1)
  • emotion management: B (margin 1)
  • emotion sensemaking: A (margin 3)
  • meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 1)
codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

gemma4_12b vs mistral_nemo12b: gemma4_12b wins

  • attunement: A (margin 2)
  • authenticity: A (margin 1)
  • bond and rapport: A (margin 1)
  • emotion management: B (margin 1)
  • emotion sensemaking: A (margin 3)
  • meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 1)
claude-opus-5-5-low · AB · valid

gptoss120_abliterated vs mistral_nemo12b: mistral_nemo12b wins

  • attunement: B (margin 3)
  • authenticity: B (margin 2)
  • bond and rapport: B (margin 3)
  • emotion management: B (margin 2)
  • emotion sensemaking: B (margin 2)
  • meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 3)
codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs mistral_nemo12b: kolibri1 wins

  • attunement: A (margin 2)
  • authenticity: A (margin 3)
  • bond and rapport: A (margin 2)
  • emotion management: A (margin 1)
  • emotion sensemaking: A (margin 3)
  • meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 2)
claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

gptoss120_abliterated vs mistral_nemo12b: mistral_nemo12b wins

  • attunement: B (margin 3)
  • authenticity: B (margin 2)
  • bond and rapport: B (margin 3)
  • emotion management: B (margin 3)
  • emotion sensemaking: B (margin 3)
  • meeting prefs and needs: B (margin 3)
claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

gemma4_12b vs mistral_nemo12b: gemma4_12b wins

  • attunement: A (margin 3)
  • authenticity: A (margin 3)
  • bond and rapport: A (margin 3)
  • emotion management: A (margin 2)
  • emotion sensemaking: A (margin 4)
  • meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)
claude-opus-5-5-low · BA · valid

kolibri1 vs mistral_nemo12b: kolibri1 wins

  • attunement: A (margin 4)
  • authenticity: A (margin 4)
  • bond and rapport: A (margin 4)
  • emotion management: A (margin 3)
  • emotion sensemaking: A (margin 4)
  • meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 3)
codex-gpt-6.1-sol-low · AB · valid

kolibri1 vs mistral_nemo12b: kolibri1 wins

  • attunement: A (margin 3)
  • authenticity: A (margin 4)
  • bond and rapport: A (margin 2)
  • emotion management: A (margin 1)
  • emotion sensemaking: A (margin 3)
  • meeting prefs and needs: A (margin 2)